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Abuse of women (Follow-up)
About this event: Behavior Change Party
Related to country: Cameroon


Just coming back from the police station, where I met a miserable husband throwing insults at me. Know what! I kept cool until the police commissioner called us up to take our statements. I did go along with my lawyer in case they stated trouble.

I recounted the whole story and how I intervened in the whole set up. What did my accuser have to say? That my attitude only confirmed fears he had nursed earlier on that I might have a secrete affair with his wife. And what was his rationale? He wondered aloud why a man would want to get involved into such risky situations without an interest to protect. This as he explained made him the more frustrated and furious. He questioned why I had to break into their privacy

What privacy I could not tell when the neighborhood, three blocks from me was shacked by the woman’s violent cries and of course I did have an interest in the matter, that of making sure women don’t undergo undeserved suffering from irresponsible men like him. Interesting how the investigator was administering his (call it) questionnaire. The man in his statement admitted that he was too violent during the fight for no just reasons.

I suggested that we pay a visit to the wife in hospital and know what? We met a woman all bandaged in white. Unfortunately for this man? The wife was pregnant. The Doctor says the chances the baby would survive are almost zero but that they would do their best.

On my part, I just wonder what kind of pregnancy can survive such brutality. We were told at the end of it all to come back in three days probably the time for the police to put two and two together.

I visited the woman in hospital again on my way back from the police station. I took along some dairies and a get-well-soon bouquet of flowers. In tears, she told me she would sign for a divorce. I told her it might not be the best solution but that she needed to make peace and talk it out with the husband when the tension boils down probably in the presence of a counselor. My lawyer is thinking of taking up the case further if the woman accepts and the truth is if he does, I would support him.

I’m just wondering what the police would make of all this inhuman treatment of others. We just have to wait and see when I must have gone back for the verdict so to call it.
Hang on….


August 9, 2005 | 9:48 AM Comments  0 comments

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taikod Terri Willard
August 9, 2005 | 10:21 AM

Hey Abongta - I can't believe that the husband is now trying to accuse YOU of something! It sounds like you did the right thing by stepping in and getting the wife to the hospital. Such sad news to hear that she might lose the baby through all of this. Do they have other children as well? If so, I hope they are ok and that the woman's family has been able to step in and take them away from such a violent situation.

I get so frustrated at times with families that allow violence to continue. I was living one time overseas with an elderly couple. Their adult son and his wife were visiting. He started insulting her and hitting her. When she ran out of the house looking for help, my host family pulled her back inside because they didn't want the neighbours to know. Somehow they thought it was better to keep it all private, although this likely only reinforced the husband's attitude that whow he was behaving was ok.
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